Communication is a very general topic. But, your success as a communicator impacts every area of your life–from your job to marriage and parenting to how you interact with Christ-followers and non-Christ-followers. Thankfully, the Bible speaks to how we (as His ambassadors) are to communicate in any given situation. 

Because communication requires learned finesse and the power of God’s Spirit within us, I will break this article into two parts. We’ll hit a few areas to consider today and a few more in the next one. The two pieces combined will still offer only an introduction of ways to grow and represent Christ more effectively in your communication.

One: Start with what is in your heart.

Luke 6:45 says, “…For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” (GNT)

Whether your communication is casual or you find yourself in conflict, we have to make sure the state of our hearts is where it belongs. If you have unchecked motives, unconfessed sin, or unforgiveness toward someone, it will be reflected in the words you speak. 

Sometimes you can anticipate a crucial conversation, and other times it is unexpected. Either way, you need to be ready by allowing God to examine your heart and align your motives with His plans and glory. (Psalm 139:23-24)

Two: Be slow to speak

“…everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…” (James 1:19b) 

Learning to measure your words by avoiding the compulsion to offer a quick answer gives a chance for you to listen for more than what is being said. It also creates space for the Holy Spirit living inside you to move in and through your response. 

If you’ve ever experienced the Holy Spirit’s power at work through your wods, you know it happens when we intentionally move (motives, agendas, and fleshly nature) out of the way and invite the Holy Spirit to step in.

Three: Be ready to speak the truth with love

Effective communication does not mean covering up the truth or our true feelings. Ephesians 4:15 says to “speak truth in love.” Instead of avoiding conflict by speaking truth, focus on how to talk about truth lovingly. Ask God to give you wisdom, which He promises to provide when we ask for it (James 1:5) and then make sure as much as you communicate truth, you also convey your love for the person with whom you are engaging.

These suggestions are just a start, but they are a strong start when putting tools into your Christ-centered communication skills. 

Do you find these three challenging or something you’ve mastered? I’d encourage you to choose one and focus on how you can allow God to make you a more effective communicator for His glory.